I’m fed up.
The truth is that, for the most part, I’m not actually sorry. I’m not. I’m simply saying “sorry” to make someone else feel more comfortable. Or I’m saying it by default, in place of random breaths and instead of “ahhh” or “mmmm” or “like.” Which, besides being totally emotionally unhealthy, is actually pretty silly.
So I’m making a promise to myself. To save my “sorry” for when I really, truly am sorry. When I’ve wronged someone or made a genuine mistake. The rest of the times? Sorry is for the birds. In 35 years of living I’ve been bumped and bruised, I’ve banged down doors and laughed till I cried… And maybe even peed by accident from the side-splitting awesomeness. I am young enough to see a span of life ahead of me yet smart enough to have some acquired wisdom.
Here are 10 things in life a woman should never have to say she’s sorry for.
You want to say something? Speak. Your voice is JUST as important as everyone else’s. Granted there are moments in life that call for tact, decorum and social etiquette. That being said, speak on sister.
2) Pubic Hair
In a vicious cycle of Internet-porn pressure, “men like it so women do it” and “some women do it so more men expect it” the last few years has trained us to think that the ideal vagina is perfectly, utterly smooth. Like pre-teen hairless. You want to wax your hair off? Go on, girl. You want to let it grow Amazon and free? Be wild. You want to vajazzle it with thunderbolts and kittens, do it. The point is, a woman should NEVER be made to feel guilty about something that is part of her natural body. The same goes for anything your vagina does on its own. Like secrete. Or get a little musky. I get it (ick) we don’t like to talk about this. But STOP SAYING SORRY FOR WHAT IS A NATURAL PART OF YOUR BODY.
3) Wearing Comfy Pants
4) Your Stance on Having Kids
5) Eating a Hamburger
6) Wanting to be Held at Night
The desire to see and be seen by another being is branded in our core. The process of giving, and receiving love, is an essential part of human nature. No matter how cynical you may feel you are, no matter how many times you’ve said you “don’t need a man” to be happy—or a woman if that’s your preference -- it is still 100% natural and normal to crave physical touching and intimacy.
7) Feeling Beautiful
8) Enjoying Sex
9) Kicking Ass
Never apologize for your successes. Do not dull yourself down to make others shine more. Do not dim your own sparkle so others do not feel lackluster. If you are ever in the position where you make more money than your partner, do not feel guilty about this. You worked hard. You scarified and put in the time. You earned it. I’ll repeat.
You worked hard. You put in the time. You earned every success your inner Shield Maiden / Warrior Beast / Corner Office CEO fought to accomplish. Feel good about it.
10) Having Your Own Dreams
How much you chose to feed your dreams is up to you. Maybe a lot, maybe a little. But you are never too old or too busy to have them for yourself.