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Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you *knew* you were experiencing growth and change? It may feel hectic or overwhelming. It may feel wildly scary, like standing in the eye of a tornado looking at everything swirl around you. Or like you are whitewater rafting on a flimsy canoe, being bounced around. When you’re in the middle of the rapids your gut instinct is to bail the canoe and flee to the side of the river to keep from being washed downstream. EXCEPT DON’T! I’m here to say, not only should you let the river move you, but you should grab a damn dingy and ride the rough water to smother parts of the river.
Here’s what I mean.
When you’re in a time of chaos and change, you only have a few choices. You can:
- Go back to the sh*t you did that got you up close and personal to chaos in the first place. This may feel like the easiest thing to do because it is what you’re used to doing. Stuff like emotional eating, shopping for stuff you don’t need, entering into unhealthy personal relationships, drinking etc. This gets you nowhere, and while it brings temporary ease, it’s only going to keep stacking stuff in the long run you’ll have to deal with eventually.
- Try to control it. If you are anything like me, certainly is a pretty strong human need. You like to know what’s coming, you want to plan it all, do it all, shape it all and MAKE IT HAPPEN! Which is great. Except… sometimes it’s not for us to make something happen. Sometimes we think we want something so badly, and in turns out to be a great gift that we don’t get what we planned on. Sometimes the best answer for us is the creative solution we can’t see if we are so focused on there being only ONE plausible answer. Or,
- Search for “the tongue” and ride it. Experts who navigate dangerous white water rapids will tell you that one strategy to navigate the water safely, is to follow the path of the “tongue.” The tongue is the glide of moving water where two crashing waves come together; this is often the smoothest part of the wave. It is also the most direct way for a paddler to get through the rapids.
What does this mean in practical terms? I can only speak from personal experience but, here’s how I “ride the tongue.” (Phrasing!! *boom* Anyone an Archer fan? Adults only please…)
I declare I’m in the rapids and I honor the chaos. If I’m going through something, I start by admitting its happening. Quite literally, I may say out loud “Ok, you’re clearly going through this” or, I will declare it to friends and loved ones in conversation. When I talk to myself in my head, I acknowledge the challenge. The first step through every block is admit there’s a block in the first place, and not to let that block STOP you, but to fuel you.
I recommit to what makes me feel love. I may not have the solution, but I do know when I show up for ME and I do the things that make me thrive then I am more likely to make smarter choices and feel guided by the Universe and world around me. When I live fully, I create positive energy which creates forward motion. When I STOP taking care of me and I stop showing up…. I shut things down before they even have a chance to grow. This means I have to:
- Eat in a balanced way,
- Give love to other women and support them in their journey, and
- Get out of my own head with meditation, self-talk and action.
I search for the lesson. Why am I hitting this block? What am I being given the opportunity to learn? It helps to know that the stuff that gets thrown our way is an opportunity FOR us to learn something and not against us, happening to punish us or keep us back. Remember this especially when sh*t feels really hard…
I stay open to creative solutions for the challenge that is being presented. Sometimes I remind myself, that my only job is to #BeGreater TODAY; I don’t have to know how it’s going to work out, I just have to focus on what I need to do today. If the best I can do is to take it one day at a time, I take it one day at a time!